Oops. Mind you... I have frequently been known to say things like (to K) "leave your sister alone" or (to D) "Leave your brother alone" when it should be the other way around - or refer to D as "she" or K as "he" - it's a mum thing. D gets really upset when I call him Kat.

Having said that, I do remember the problems you've had with your mum accepting things. I'm just saying that it's probably not deliberate considering the work you've both put in to re-building your relationship.